Love actually has NOTHING to do with it

Do you have a song that you can finally relate to? I listened to ‘What’s Love Got to do with It’ recently and it slapped differently. Hot revelation. I wasn’t indulging in the sensational fuzz of affection, it was science haha.

Previously, I felt the lyrics to this iconic ear worm were too harsh to sing with the amount of vigour Ms Tina Turner sings it with. Why croon, without regret, that you don’t love someone or that the relationship was never serious?! Well after landing from a fun time in the clouds I get it. If you really consider the song, the writer urges you to not confuse a hot and fast flutter with the unquenchable fire of love. Love has nothing to do with butterflies but many times we hold on to that cheap emotion, and run till it knocks the wind out of us. A bit of a reality back-hand.

Please don’t be disheartened, use the song as a barometer to test wether you just enjoyed the hot flush or are willing to tread through the cold.


Girls don’t live by fairytales alone

Although I do understand the arguments against fairy tales – patriarchy and the like- I also don’t feel it needs to be that serious. As a child you sprint with your imagination and pretend you live in a castle and float endlessly in dresses. If at 16 you still believe that will be the course of your life, that’s an obvious cause for concern lol. TO THIS DAY I love a lot of the Disney princess movies and didn’t internalise Ariel’s folly.

The arguments could go on but they don’t need to. Girls don’t live by fairy tales alone. Life and the chat of our elders teach us that it’s hard work. With that being said I will continually get my existence to Cinderella, the Black one. Brandy, Whitney, Whoopi and the whole cast are timeless! I don’t feel its damaging to enjoy these moments and want to be whisked around a ballroom. The film is FUN! I didn’t even try to make sense of a Black and White couple birthing an Asian son! I was a child and that’s the point of a great film. It allows you to safely escape for a while and be transported to a realm where life can finally go your way.