Reflections

The Pussy is Brave

The Pussy is brave.

I never imagined that statement would be powerful, but Rupi Kaur proved otherwise.

We use the word pussy to discredit people’s, manhood or just as the slang term for vagina. However in her poem, Kaour argues that it’s in fact a symbol of bravery.

Think about it, what other part of our body is used as a gatekeeper for a fetus to enter the real world? And in the process it faces being ripped, prodded and pulled? Yet for centuries it’s been seen as taboo and an insult.

Kaur ends the poem saying: “Now here you are using the word pussy like an insult when you’re not even strong enough to be one.” That’s the part that yells the loudest.

It’s 99.9% likely you can boil the root of the word’s weight down to the arrogant patriarchy, and I doubt people will be proudly reclaiming the word Pussy any time soon. But the poem is definitely food for thought as to what we as a society deem as undeserving.

(Granted, hearing someone say ‘Pussyio’ is hilarious for some reason)

(Kaur, Rupi Homebody, 2020)

Reflections

Malcolm & Marie & integrity’s fight

My favourite thing about this film is that there wasn’t a sex scene. We got close but never close enough to reach a satisfying climax. And I’m not glad because I’m awkwardly prudent with the idea of a couple being in love, but because it meant Marie held on to a power many people feel they can compromise at their own expense.

Malcolm & Marie is a recent Netflix film release directed by Euphoria’s Sam Levison. It stars John David Washington and EMMY winner Zendaya.

The film follows a couple who upon returning from a film premier, wallow in the tensions of their relationship. A self absorbed Malcolm stews because he is dissatisfied with comments over his film, and Marie hurts over Malcolm’s disregard of her feelings.

Throughout the film Malcolm tries dictate the argument by smoothing over Marie’s angst so he can revel in his wants and have sex with her.

Marie’s anger subsides and she almost gives herself to him… Until she doesn’t. Marie who finds it hard to articulate her feelings appears to find her voice in every moment of solitude and like any person finding their way, abruptly changes her mind.

I commened her for this. She doesn’t let go of her fight for peace or release her power until she’s satisfied. There were matters breaking her heart and she couldn’t share any joy with Malcolm wholeheartedly until she felt honest and heard. She forced him to listen and wore his arrogance down.

She held her own. She didn’t let the gaslighting form her.

In any regard it’s a lesson in not doing something for someone until you are truly ready. Your emotions and feelings are valid and should be held with integrity.