For the longest time I’ve struggled with the prospect of being uncomfortable, as in I’d rather not do something in case the possible downsides come true.
I’ve sometimes convinced myself not to drive somewhere in case I make a wrong turn and the idea I had planned morphs into a version I wasn’t prepared for. It’s like a pang of over analytical anxiety paralyses me till I reason that the worst case scenario will be my fate.
I’ve never viewed this as self sabotage, rather avoiding extra stress. Of course this net can only be cast so far and after all the reconciling you realise it simply won’t stretch to every situation.
The long and short of it is that ‘what if something bad happens’ can’t rule your life. Stop reasoning with the worst case scenario in an unwise manner. When you push through the statements of fear you’ll realise it was never a lion before you but rather a mouse. And even if it turns out to be a lion you can still boss it!