I had a revelation last year. Caring in vain is dumb, and I’m clinically dumb for subscribing. Loose here!
As a free woman I looked back and let go of many of my worries and wanted to slap myself up for taking them on. KMT, *cuts eye*.
Worry makes the heart sick and doesn’t add a single better day to our lives. Next thing you know, you’re spiralling with a million questions like: Am I likeable enough? Approachable? Banter strong enough without being over confident? Should I be this funny? Blah Blah crap blah.
Begin to realise that someone’s reaction to you, or lack thereof, may have little or nothing to do with you personally. If you’re emitting vibes which aren’t reciprocated this isn’t something for you to agonise over. Of course this makes sense regarding strangers, if this is your friend then that’s a conversation. We shouldn’t take on the weight of everyone else then wonder why our shoulders are heavy. Furthermore no one is obliged to you and vice versa.
So instead of wondering if you fulfill the needs of the crowd, wonder if you’ve fulfilled the needs of yourself.